WEB COMIC: I’m a Mixed Race Woman of Color. He’s a White Trans Man. We Love Each Other.

A Valentine’s Day Comic Strip by Nia King

QWOC Media Wire Valentine's Day Comic

Notes from Nia:

I’m a mixed-race queer cisgender woman. My partner is a white transgender man. We’ve been together three years.

He is the most amazing partner I could ever ask for. And despite his being white and male, he seems to “get me” better than anyone else in my life. I never have to explain to him why racism makes me angry, or why invalidation sends me into a tailspin of self-doubt.

I have a theory that part of the reason we get each other so well is because I’m mixed and he’s trans. I’m not trying to say “Being mixed is just like being trans. I’m mixed, so I totally get what being trans is like.”

I don’t, but I do think he and I are in a unique position to understand each other’s experience. I walk through the world knowing I’m black, but being seen by others as white. He walks through the world knowing he’s a man, but being read by others as a woman. These are unique experiences, and they are in some ways parallel.

He doesn’t experience racism the way I do, and transphobia doesn’t shape my life the way it does his.

But our relationship is one place that I always know I’ll be seen as a person of color, and he knows he’ll always be seen as a man. It’s a special and beautiful thing we can offer each other, and I believe that’s in part because the similarities of what we experience in the outside world.

About the Author

Nia KingNia King is a queer mixed-race writer, illustrator, and filmmaker with a passion for social justice. Nia currently works for Colorlines.com and has spent the last several years self-publishing, presenting at conferences, and screening her film, The Craigslist Chronicles. Her writing about race, gender, and sexuality has been published in the magazine Race Revolt, the journal Women and Performance, and the book Zines in Third Space: Radical Cooperation and Borderlands Rhetoric. Her most recent project is a weekly webcomic about her relationship, which you can check out at comicsbynia.tumblr.com.View all posts by Nia King →